What would you do if the family of the man you’re planning to marry cannot accept an important part of your life? For this week’s “Good Advice” column, we help out a single mother with a three-year-old daughter. Read her story below:
I have a three-year-old daughter out of wedlock and my boyfriend’s parents, being very traditional, can’t accept me because I have “baggage.” I feel so upset because of how they are judging me. I know my boyfriend loves me and my daughter. In fact, we are planning to get married soon. What can I do?
— Unwed Mother, 28
Advice from My Pope:
You can start by understanding where his parents are coming from. They simply want to shield him from any dilemmas and complications that are associated with your situation, just as you would want to protect your own daughter from things you believe could hurt her. This will help you feel less upset, and as you feel more relaxed and open toward them, you will have an easier time showing them all your good qualities. Hopefully they will one day understand why their son fell in love with you. At the same time, ask for advice and support from your boyfriend, as he would know how you can win them over—together. It may not be easy, but when things get tough, take comfort in what Pope Francis once said to a single mother like you. “You respected the life you were carrying inside you, and God is going to reward you for that and He does reward you for that. Don’t be ashamed.”