Have you heard? My Pope Philippines has a new section! At “Good Advice”, you have a safe, loving space wherein you can voice out your concerns, express your issues, and pour your heart out. And it doesn’t end there—we answer your questions! Here’s a sneak peek at our brand-new page.
From Feeling Lost, 62:
Question: My husband and I are very happy in our retirement, but I wake up every day not knowing what to do. I feel like I have lost my purpose not only because I don’t go to the office anymore, but most especially because all my children are grown up and living on their own. How do I bring meaning and motivation back to my life?
Answer from My Pope: If each day seems to blend into the next, making the passing time seem pointless, take heart—you have a new mission! Pope Francis, who revels in his nickname ‘Lolo Kiko’ and gleefully counts himself as one of the elderly (“I, too, belong to this age group!” he had said right after his trip to the Philippines), reminds the older of his flock that “it’s still not time to pull in the oars.” In other words, you can still keep rowing your boat! The Santo Papa believes that grandparents and older people are wonderful gifts for the Church, and that they carry “a great infusion of wisdom for all of society.” You may not have papers to file at the office, or lunchboxes to pack for children who have flown the coop, but you do have a marvelous assignment from Lolo Kiko. He recommends the elderly to take upon the task of handing down their wisdom and helping the young ones find meaning in life—perhaps not by chasing after your children hoping they will still listen to you, but by doing volunteer work for those who really do need your help at an orphanage, senior’s center, or church program, for example.
From Up-in-Arms Mom, 37:
Question: My son is being bullied in school. I already talked to the teachers, and to their credit, they were able to stop the kids from pushing my son around. But there’s one child who still bullies my son. Should I talk to his parents? I am so tempted to discipline this child myself!
Answer from My Pope: During his speech in Milan last year, Pope Francis urged not just the youth, but also parents and teachers to work against bullying. He called the act as “an aggression that conceals profound cruelty,” and has strongly voiced out his disapproval towards it. If an intervention from your son’s classmates and teachers did not work, you may have to step things up and talk to the parents of the child—but it may be wise to course this through the school with a teacher or representative present. We also caution you to tread lightly. Try not to accuse the child or the parents. Instead, try to focus on what steps can be taken to make things better. This way, you won’t put them on the defensive. Lastly, help your child process what is happening and help him know that he is lovable even if not everyone treats him well. This is one of the best opportunities for him to learn about treating everyone with kindness and compassion because he knows what it feels like to be treated badly. In fact, who knows? The bully is probably dealing with a lot of issues as well. This does not excuse his behavior, of course, but it can help your son see things in a new light.